Tanzanian singer Bernard Michael Paul Mnyang’anga popularly known as Ben Pol has opened up about his regrets on marriage to Keroche Breweries heiress Anerlisa Muigai.
In March, Ben filed for a divorce. Eleven months earlier, the couple held a colourful wedding in the suburbs of Mbezi Beach, Dar es Salaam.
The ‘Moyo Mashine’ hitmaker says it is not easy to pinpoint specifics that led to their marriage falling apart.
However, he mentioned 'insecurities’ on the part of Anerlisa as one of the main reasons that led to the fallout.
According to Ben Pol, the two began to drift apart in September of 2020 as they reportedly were not on speaking terms for a month.
The singer revealed, “When reports emerged on social media last year that we had split, things were bad, we were not on speaking terms. It is true, we had split for about a month and a half. Things were bad to an extent Anerlisa sent me documents from her lawyers asking for a separation.”
The relationship became an on and off thing to the point that drift worsened.
“We were good until February this year when again the bubble burst. Again, we separated in episodes. We did not speak for three weeks, tried fixing things, and not long we were back in the woods and this time things were pretty intense,” Ben Pol said.
According to him, the marriage became complicated because of Anerslisa's insecurities that got the best of her.
Ben continued, “Going back to the separation letter, from where I sit, I think it was driven by a lot of insecurities and fear. People do so much for the sake of protecting their image. I think she felt I knew so much and maybe one day I would blast. That’s just not me.”
“I found the letter from her lawyers baseless because it was actually gagging me not to speak about my marriage. I mean if you are married you have the right to speak about your marriage if you want to, how then do you gag someone from not speaking about their lives if they wish to do so.” he added.
According to Ben Pol, the divorce was necessary because he did his best to save the marriage but the back and forth became unbearable,
He said, “I did my best, when I got into the marriage situation, I was serious, I wasn’t joking or passing time, I had invested in it. The reason why I did a lot of work to make it work and even if we are to do it again, I will not change anything. I will still do what I did to save the situation.”
“What I regret most is the many signals that kept popping up but I kept ignoring them for a very long time. If I had not, the marriage wouldn’t have happened. I believe we are all empowered to foresee our future going by our gut feelings or instincts," he added.
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